Maulingaputta was a wise and knowledgeable man and a teacher. He came to the Buddha seeking answers to his questions. The Buddha agreed to answer his questions on one condition, that Maulingaputta stay with the Buddha for one year without speaking. If Maulingaputta could do that, the Buddha promised to answer all his questions.
At this Buddha's disciple Sariputta laughed, then he apologized to Maulingaputta, saying "I was not laughing at you, rather I am laughing because the Buddha said the same thing to me, and after a year of silence, I had no more questions. Even though the Buddha asks me for questions, I find I have none."
When we act as an NLP coach, we are not there to answer our client's questions. We are there to help our client to find their own answers.
We do not do this by asking our client to remain silent for a year. This might be impractical in our modern world. Rather we hold the space for our client to explore their own truth, even if only for an hour.
The way we do this is through questions. Questions allow us to guide our client through their own experience, and find their own truth. When they find their own truth, then like Sariputta, they find they have no more questions, and are surprised at the peaceful answers they have instead.
When we ask our client for their question, and they find it is gone and they cannot find it, that is when we know we have been of assistance.
Shawn Carson
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